The summary of our discussion last week is that confidence is doing. That reminds of one of my secondary school friends. He's tall, light and handsome. But he didnt' have the courage to ask ladies out. He admired them at a distant but to let cat out of the bag he could not.
There was a day he sent one of us to a certain girl he admired. The person he sent knew his challenge of not being able to talk to ladies. All he hoped was that the guy would do everything on his behalf. But he did otherwise, he just called the lady for him without telling her anything.
He just did a little introduction and left the two of them on the scene. My coward friend was there at a spot dancing and muttering same thing again and again. Such that it was obvious to the girl that he was afraid to talk to her. But later voiced out though. That single encounter instilled confidence in him. However, the girl laughed.
Confidence is not about being right always, it is about doing it without the fear of being wrong. Worthy of note is that you earn not confidence with your degree. It is built, it is developed. Lots of graduate out there with low self-esteem. Employer do capitalize on this at the last phase of interview when payment is being discussed. This is the reason two people working in the same organization, doing the same work. Yet their salaries differ. Bargaining power you call it? Yes but confidence influence it.
Many folks married to ladies they never love due to lack of confidence. They were left with no choice than to take what was given to them.
Some lack confidence because of fear of disappointment! Disappointment or failure will always come but in as much you win enough more than you lose.
Lack of confidence, fear and low self-esteem are all but in the same category. If one can conquer these, there's no limit to how far one can go. Most times what look like mountains are nothing but mere sands. How would you know if the first step is not taking?
Take that step now!
If you love her, tell her. Theres no time burning inside when the solution stares at you straight in the eye.
The worst answer you can ever get from any lady is NO
However, life goes on.
Till we meet again I remain my humble self AKERELE odunayo Samuel.
Remember keep being you and keep being good.
© OdunayoSam, 2019.
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