LISTEN TO EACH OTHER.

Sometimes we misconstrue question and see it as an abuse. And because of this perpetual misconception our relationship with others is getting lean.

From my research I've realized that most of the fight we fought were on the premise of misconception of statements, actions or thoughts.

Some misunderstanding/arguments ensue like this:

Mr. A: 2+1=3
Mr. B: No, it's 1+2...Lol

And they both can argue on this for some minutes which can later result into something else.
However, they're saying the same thing in a different way. But they fail to listen to each other....

Even in Philosophy it was experiment that a certain folk who says tomorrow is Sunday and the other who says 'no' tomorrow is not Sunday, but the day after tomorrow is Monday were actually saying the same thing in a different way. But they could argue this for hour not knowing they were saying same thing.

Take a critical look at the conversation below:

Abuser: Are you deaf?

Me: did you just ask 'if I'm deaf?'

Abuser: Yes

Me: That shows I'm not deaf because I can hear you clearly.

Abuser: Are you blind?

Me: Are you not wearing blue shirt?

Abuser: Yes, I'm wearing blue shirt.

Me: Then, that's a confirmation that I'm not blind.

You can see it up there that I was not called a deaf but was asked a question if I'm a deaf. And I gave it a pragmatic approach to show that I'm not a deaf....

I believe we cannot live together without having disagreement. But it should not be frequent.

However, our disagreement or argument must not lead to fight. If we take the right approach of listening to each other's point of view.

Many a time misconception like this lead to divorce in marriage. I believe we can all live together in harmony without qualm. And this can be made possible only and only if we listen to each other.

Flimsy argument like the illustration above had scattered many relationship. No one can live in isolation. We need each other to make the world a better place to be.

Thousands of people are dying yearly due to loneliness which can be remedied by having cordial relationship with one another.

Next time you're asked an abuse-like question, don't respond with abuse. Just give a reasonable answer. By doing so, you're telling the abuser that you are more intelligent.

Shalom.

If this blesses you, kindly do well to share your experience with us in the comment box below.

Remember keep being you and keep being true.

Till we meet next time, I remain my humble self, AKERELE, Odunayo Samuel.

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